Food bloggers IMHO (In my humble opinion) are the biggest posers in my book especially the so-called Power Bloggers .  There are Power Bloggers who actually get paid, oops I mean bribed for writing good reviews.  This link will take you to an OC Register story.  

300º on Korean TV from Joon Kang on Vimeo.

Having lived in Korea for a little over 11 years, one thing I notice in Korea that I really hate.  When I'm giving somebody a ride in the car, I want to blast the radio, yet they complain it's too loud or they complain they hate music, I want to punch them in the mouth!  Having grown up in Los Angeles, we had a car culture so being stuck in traffic or going out with friends on Friday, Saturday nights we would blast the radio.  Hell when my friends and I discovered 노래방 (Karaoke box), we'd go on weekday afternoons when it was cheap and hang out there all day and sing our favorite songs.  This particular song we sang alot cuz it was the big hit song of our days and we were impressed by how Richard Marx could hit the high notes in the chorus and how we strived to hit the high notes, believe me it was a real comedy of errors of how we tried to hit the high notes and how terrible we sounded.

Stevie B's "Because I Love You (The Postman's Song)" holds a lot of memories for me when it comes to Seattle because of my ex-g/f and showing how much of a nerd I am, it was in Seattle I learned the first lesson of love and relationships there and this was our song...

This was my first REAL relationship you can see was a roller coaster, volatile and super strange.  So weird I should've written a book or a treatment (in JP & KR, they call it a scenario) for a movie!!!!  The love we shared, the hate we shared, yet at the end of the day we only had love for each other.

But the song "My Valentine" really holds a special place in my heart.  Before the internet bubble popped in the late 90's early 2000's there was a Thai restaurant I went to every Friday or Saturday night, they had live music and I fell in love with the singer, she was a Chinese-Thai chick and this was the girl I wanted to create my own record label around, it was between her and this Filipina chick, but the Filipina chick came with too much baggage although I thought she was more talented.  Looking back now I was in love with the fact that she was in love with the performance and me being the sentimental fool, which makes me think of the following song below.

I remember the last time I saw her, I got with this Rastafarian chick from Ghana and we decided to go there for dinner.  I remember asking her (the singer) to sit with us during her break, and I saw how pissed off she looked but being an Asian woman she was being "Asian cool" for those of you that are not Asian, it's an Asian thing you wouldn't understand.  At this moment the Billy Vera song "At This Moment" popped into my head.

Here's the conversation that ensued between the 2 women...

Singer, "What do you think of Korean food?"

My g/f @ the time, "I'm willing to try it."

Singer, "I love Korean food."

Me being a dumbass at the time didn't understand women's "read in-between the lines" rhetoric, the older I got I knew these women weren't talking about Korean food but they were talking about me being a Korean dude!  So many years later I'm still the same dumb ass where I still can't figure out how to read between the lines, is it me or are my fellow dudes, non-gay girly men in the same shoes?  That same night I bought a rose for the singer and gave it to her anonymously and had it handed it to her while she was singing and the very next song she played was Martina McBride's "My Valentine" a song I heard her sing many times before but this night I knew it would be in my memories forever and to this day I still remember that night at a love that could have been but never will be.  Although I later found out her heroine habit and how she had a sugar daddy that paid her rent for her apartment, after the initial shock wore off, as time passes by, I still romanticize the past through music.  As this song from Trisha Yearwood states "The Song Remembers When."  Yet, despite all the bad things about her I learned I Would've Love Her Anyways!

When I first came to Korea, the girl I got with, the girl I'm still with to this day, this is our song, we slow danced to this song in Seoul Night Club...Although 장나라 isn't a great singer nor is this a great song, it's the memories associated with the song that makes music and any art a true contributer to society and to all you jerkoffs that hates music, kiss my ass and live your miserable ass life but don't share you friggin misery with me because I love music, don't bring me down to your level, instead, for a change come up to my level and see how wonderful life can be.

To all you no-culture having dumbasses, music is my life, it is our memories, the soundtrack to our life!

> YOU KNOW YOU ARE FILIPINO IF...
> 1. You want to be a dancer, a singer, or an actor,
> even though you have a
> day job as a nurse, a security guard, or an
> accountant.
> 2. A member of your family back home is a politician
> or a movie star.
> 3. You're not afraid of black people.
> 4. You keep a tabo in your bathroom.
> 5. You have a T-shirt somewhere in you're closet
> that says "Filipino Power."
>
> 6. You eat your dog.
> 7. Your mom pronounces a P like an F and an F like a
> P.
> 8. Your parent's English sounds like Tagalog.
> 9. You greet your elders by touching their hands to
> your forehead.
> 10. You're proud that your last name is Spanish, and
> in some cases, you
> seriously claim you have Spanish blood!
> 11. When you are talking on a chat room (Yahoo or
> AOL Chat), your name
> always includes Flip, Pinoy, or Pinay.
> 12. You have 5 pairs of tsinelas on your doorstep.
> 13. You are either in a gang, you want to be in a
> gang, a relative is in a
> gang, or your grandpa used to kick with the "Roxas
> Blvd." gang.
> 14. You point with your lips.
> 15. You don't care if you are superior to all other
> Asians or not, because
> being Filipino is just cool in itself.
> 16. You have relatives (or your nickname) whose
> nicknames consist of
> repeated syllables, such as Jun-Jun, Ling-Ling,
> Mon-Mon...etc.
> 17. You parents call each other "Mommy" and "Daddy"
> (or "Ma and "Pa")
>
> YOU KNOW YOU ARE CHINESE IF...
> 1. You think you're the smartest people in the
> world.
> 2. You have a pager and cellular phone with you at
> all times.
> 3. Today's steamed rice is tomorrow's fried rice.
> 4. You're afraid of black people.
> 5. You hate being called "Zip Head" at school.
> 6. You have puffy hair and u split it in the middle.
> 7. All other races (whites, blacks, beaners, etc.)
> know what you are because
>
> when they see you, they automatically say, "Are you
> Chinese or something?"
> 8. You've mastered the piano, violin, or flute.
> That's all because any other
>
> instrument isn't worthy to be played.
> 9. You're proud because every other Asian says "I'm
> part Chinese" or have
> Chinese connections.
> 10. You believe Bruce Lee was a national hero.
> 11. You know you are superior to all other Asians.
>
> YOU KNOW YOU'RE KOREAN IF..
> 1. You smoke and drink too much.
> 2. You're actually sorry that Margaret Cho's sitcom
> was canceled
> 3. You're afraid of black people.
> 4. You hate the Movie "Don't be a Menance While
> Drinking...Etc."
> 5. Your friends tell you..."How do you walk with
> your eyes closed??"
> 6. You have 6 AP classes and you're on the tennis
> team.
> 7. You are always on the evening news with other
> races involved.
> 8. A relative owns a store and all own personal
> handguns.
> 9. Your last name is Kim/Park, you are a relative to
> a Kim/Park.
> 10. You know you are superior to all other Asians.
> 11. You get irritated when other races ask you "Are
> you Chinese or
> something??"
>
> YOU KNOW YOU ARE MALAYSIAN IF ...
> 1. You believe everything the Government tells you.
> 2. But are willing to change your mind if someone
> slips you $50.
> 3. The whole world (and Soros) is out to suppress
> you and your country.
> 4. You think that Mahathir will be around in 2020.
> 5. You welcome all people (be they black or
> otherwise) who invest in the MSC
>
> (Multi-Super Corridor)
> 6. You think you are superior to most other Asians,
> but $50 can change that
> too.
>
> YOU KNOW YOU ARE SINGAPOREAN IF ...
> 1. You eat, sleep, have sex and smile according to
> the policies stipulated
> by the Government in the Red Book they gave you when
> you were born.
> 2. The Red Book does not state that you have to be
> afraid of black people so
>
> you aren't.
> 3. You know you are superior to all other Asians,
> because it says so in the
> Red Book.
> 4. You think the Government is oppressive but you
> still vote them in again
> and again.
> 5. You join a long queue even though you don't know
> what that queue is for.
>
> YOU KNOW YOU ARE CAMBODIAN IF..
> 1. You own, have relative who owns, or know someone
> who owns a DONUT SHOP!!!
>
> 2. You have a life time job at a donut shop.
> 3. You still work at a donut shop on weekends even
> if you have a full time
> job outside.
> 4. You HATE Donuts!!
> 5. You live in Long Beach and/or you have relatives
> who live in Long Beach,
> or, you go to Long Beach every weekend.
> 6. You can't live without steamed rice.
> 7. You're darker than all your other Asian friends.
> 8. You kick it with black people and other people
> think you're black too.
> 9. You hate the name Pol Pot.
> 10. The first cool thing you learned in America is
> how to break dance.
> 11. You hate it when people think Cambodians are the
> dirtiest asians.
> 12. You own the old Toyota Cressida or an old Nissan
> Maxima.
> 13. You have a Laotian relative.
> 14. You are tired of Cambodian stereotypes, so you
> say that you are
> "Kampuchean" instead.
> 15. You want other Asians to stop meddling in your
> country.
> 16. You deny numbers 1 through 15
>
>
> YOU KNOW YOU ARE VIETNAMESE IF...
> 1. You've gotta have fish sauce with every meal.
> 2. You eat at a restaurant that has "Pho."
> 3. You have some relative who is Chinese.
> 4. You're afraid of black people.
> 5. Your mom has the meanest accent and you can't
> even understand a word she
> says.
> 6. People call you "war boy or war girl" in school.
> 7. You have rice grains growing in your backyard.
> 8. Your last name is Nguyen, you have a relative
> whose a Nguyen, or you live
>
> next to a Nguyen.
> 9. You think you are superior to all other Asians.
>
> YOU KNOW YOU ARE INDONESIAN IF....
> 1. All throughout your years in school, not one
> teacher have ever pronounced
>
> your last name right.
> 2. You drive a fixed up Toyota Corolla.
> 3. (Guys) You are dark, have long hair, and listen
> to Heavy Metal music
> (Girls) You wish you were Filipino.
> 4. You're afraid of black people.
> 5. Your mom is a nurse and your dad is in business.
> 6. You live in Redlands, CA or Loma Linda, CA,
> Diamond Bar, CA.
> 7. Your parent's dream car is a Toyota Previa.
> 8. You never find "Indonesian" under the ethnicity
> section of ANY
> application.
> 9. You brag about the Komodo dragon living in
> Indonesia.
> 10. Whenever you tell someone what race you are,
> they always answer "Where's
>
> that??"
> 11. No matter what year/model of car you have, you
> find some way to modify
> it and race it.
> 12. You always get the "Are you Filipino or
> something??" question.
> 13. You think you are superior to all Asians

CIO Daily

First there was racism, then stereotyping, then what Oliver Stone coined as "Placism" (from the Movie, "Any Given Sunday" quoted by Jamie Foxx's character in the movie), where each race should know their place.

Through the racism and the stereotyping that ensued, everybody started becoming categorized, and because of those dumb ass psychiatrists and the pseudo doctor psychologists, the box that everybody is categorized into is getting smaller, and even sociologists are starting to become guilty of this micro categorization of societies, groups, religions, etc. Therefore categorism is not just limited to ethnicity/race. Just look at drug addicts, criminals, people from a disadvantaged socio-economic class, sure there are some patterns (correlations), but these idiots by saying correlation does not equal causation, by putting everything into a nice, neat category is in essence are contradicting themselves by saying correlation equals causation by their categorization.

Therefore, I now coin the term "Categorism", where everything is concerned, especially how race is placed in a box. For an example of what I mean, please click HERE I don't consider this racist, I consider it racial categoricalism where Chinese people are supposed to be this way...

Example, (from my observation of living in the US):

Asians (as far as they're concerned we're all either Chinese or Japanese), anyways, we're either model students, chaste, non-sexual beings (at least for the men), skinny, effeminate (men), kung fu fighters or weaklings, for the women, sex toys or chaste or kung fu fighters, submissive.

Black people: Criminals, rappers, athletes, can sing & dance well...

These are two examples I like to use, because I was talking to my white friend the other day and he admitted that if we (Asian & Black people) didn't fit in these categories, it would be hard for him to accept an Asian person or black person that doesn't not fit these neat categorical stereotypes...

Living in South Korea now, when you say caucasians, the first thought amongst the average Korean person (my own informal survey), the categories are for men:

1. All are handsome or good looking (I try to explain that models appear in magazines because they don't look like the ordinary person, yet they don't understand).

2. All caucasian men are tall (I'm 176 cm or 5' 9 1/2"), I'm not short OK!!!

3. They're all English teachers or US soldiers (20 years ago, just US soldiers).

4. They're all rich (think about it, if you're rich would you travel over 10,000 miles for a job? I try to explain that most English teachers are here because they can't find a job where they're from with their liberal arts, history, English Lit degrees and I always say, if you're living and eating well there's no reason to emigrate...

For the women:

1. They will all get fat or they are all fat!!! I'm confused with this one... (Then again, a hot chick in any country has no reason to emigrate, don't call me a chauvanist, guys know what I'm talking about).

Yet caucasians can be outside of these categories and be accepted, even as a Kyopo (a Korean person that lived overseas), I am categorized by Korean people.

The most common questions I heard:

1. Why did you want to come to Korea?
My reponse: Lower crime rate, a homogeneous society (over 20 years of living in a heterogeneous society you want a change!), quality of life, plus living in Asia is very addicting, don't know why?

2. When will you go back to America?
Been there, done that...I'm sick of 4 seasons, if I choose to emigrate again, why do I want to go back to where I grew up? I want to go to a warm weather country, wanna leave behind the cold!!!! This people definitely cannot understand, so my response is America is not the world, there's Europe (which I would rather live in, knowing what I know now), Africa, SE Asia, Central Asia, South America, etc etc etc why limit yourself?

The most common misconceptions of Kyopos (Koreans that lived or grew up overseas):

1. We're all super rich.
2. We all went to great colleges/universities.
3. We all study hard.
4. The world is our oyster.

So, being a Kyopo, if you're not rich and did not go to a great college, people disperse away from you like ( fill in analogy here)...

Just my new theory, perhaps one day it may be published, LOL upon further research. 

Based on my observation of "high self esteem" people, they have high self esteem as a result of who they compare themselves to.  For example, I had a Kyopo friend who was cocky bordering on arrogant, upon further observatioin, he would always surround himself with people whom he considered to be less intelligent than him, so he could be the smartest guy in the room.  How narcissistic is that? Another dumb ass comment he made was that it was hard to find a job in which I replied, "I never, ever had a hard time finding a job."  When he learned which college I went to, in a demeaning way, he's like, "Eh, it's alright."  He graduated from UCLA, I was impressed until later, I found out he was a friggin Sociology major!  If I knew his major then, I would have said "Of course, you can't get a damn job with a Sociology major", these are the same jerkoffs that come to KR & JP and teach English cuz they can't find a job that pays equally as well back home from the "No career majors."  And these same people have very "High Self Esteem", and they are not in short supply either. 

Another group of jerkoffs are the English students who can speak a little English, they brag in front of their friends how good their English ability is and these same jerkoffs tell me to speak English to them when I try to speak Korean.  After I oblige and patronize them by purposely speaking super difficult English to them along with some street slang, I did them a Public Service by making them realize how much more they have to learn, and these douchebags hate on me for this when they should be licking my ass and thanking me, oops I forgot this high self esteem jerkoff can no longer brag in front of his/her friends with the same conviction before they met me and I put their ass on check.  So one of the freight forwarders I'm dealing with, our relationship started out that way, now we speaking Korean 90%.  Another supplier though is a funny case, he won't take my calls anymore, he looks at the Caller ID and sees if it's me won't pick up the phone.  I always say these jerkoffs that can't speak the language as good as they think they can GET YOU KILLED!  They can mistranslate something and get you into a lot of trouble.  I punched a dude in the face and some translator was there and he was HORRIBLE, he could have sent me to jail.  Then he had the nerves to get angry at me for me wanting to confirm every word he was translating, saying it was mendo kusai, I told his sorry ass, it's my ass on the line not yours plus you're getting paid by my tax dollars so earn your damn money.  This guy also told me he was a pre-law major at a US university, yet I knew more about the law I did as an amateur Law hobbyist!!!  Go figure.  Many people that have very low self esteem I know about anything, always work harder and want to hang out with people smarter than them so they can get better.  When you have high self esteem and you THINK you're already good I guess there's no more room to improve.  I'll finally close with one of my entertainment idol Howard Stern, he has a very low self esteem and that low self esteem drove him to work hard at his craft and now he's the highest paid radio personality in the history of radio.

I'm for supporting people, giving them moral support, etc.  I am not for cultivatig self esteem because it's over rated.  Our parents & siblings tried their best by curtailing our expectations.  Our siblings also have the job & responsibility of putting us in our place before we get too big headed, or our friends always kept us in check, yet with the proliferation of the single child homes and sit in front of the computer all the day culture, these social skills are not being executed so you have people who derive their sense of accomplishment based on how good they are on WOW or Starcraft.  FYI:  This does not translate to real life!  Let's not re-invent the wheel people.  Most of the times, what worked for centuries is the best way.

I grew up in three different cultures, born in KR, spent the first 7 years of my life in JP, and the majority of my life in the US and the last so many years in the motherland.  Many Korean people I meet tell me I don't think like a Korean bullcrap, I then turn around and say, hey my parents are Korean and compared to how they taught me YOU DON"T THINK LIKE A REAL KOREAN.  So, to many douchebag, wish they could speak English like me, had my experience of living in the US Koreans, I'm too American.  Yet to the Kyopos (Korean Americans), I'm too Korean or I'm a pseudo-Korean.  Case in point, I knew this hyeong (older dude), he would always say I'm a pseudo Korean cuz I can't speak Korean well, yet he's the one who refers to himself as "Daniel", I never, ever referred to myself with a "Christianized" name!  He didn't go to the army which is requried of all Korean males, I did, yet I'm the pseudo Korean?  Amongst my own people I don't fit in because I hate how Kyopos think they're better than Koreans who didn't live overseas or can't speak English.  i have news for them, when you speak English, you speak with an Asian rhythm this is why you always try to make me feel bad by saying "You talk like a white boy" comment...Can't fit in with my own people, oi vay...Having grown up in Japan at my most impressionable age, I learned to love the samurai culture, yet Westerners or outsiders don't get it when they talk about the samurai way.  Kevin Costner in the Bodyguard said he likes the Samurai because he has no fear of death, that's so shallow, anyways I talk about it in Episode 3, sorry not trying to be a plug machine...yet because I'm not Japanese, I don't quite fit in (although I'm Asian) and in the US, despite the fact I can speak English like a "white boy", I never fit in cuz I wasn't white, my family also emigrated to the US prior to the Korean immigration explosion, when that time came, I didn't know how to act with Asian people, let alone my own people.  I consider myself patriotic, not nationalistic.  What do you mean by this, you ask?  Patriotic means you love your country, will fight and die for you country, whereas nationalists only see their country, buy prodcuts only produced by their country, refuses to see the bad in their country, and many nationalists mistake my patriotism for nationalism.  So cosmically, I guess you can say my time was all screwed up.  Here's an example of racism I experienced in my high school drama class.  We had to do a skit, some girl dresses up in a bath robe and pretends to be a slob, the drama teacher raves about what a great job she did, so I dressed up in drag (not a pretty sight) she gave me a C+ for my efforts.  Hey, it takes a lot more cajones for a man to dress in drag than for a chick to wear a bath robe and act like a slob!  This taught me a very valuable lesson:  If I were white I would have gotten an A+.  

Living in Korea, I have two problems, because of my Korean pronunciation, they think I'm a foreigner (meaning Chinese), when they find out I'm a kyopo then they either hate on me or want to ask me a million questions or have free English practice with me!  The ones who hate on me are hilarious, although they hate on me, they try to send their kids to US, Canada, New Zealand, Australia or Malaysia or the Phillipines to learn English, thus they're hypocrites!  Another bunch I run into are the ones who want free English lessons or practice, this is why I stopped seeing my extended family, it really became a burden when they all asked me to teach them English, I was tutor during the army, you think after I come home after military duty, teaching punk kids English which I'm getting paid for, I would want to teach English for FREE!  Because of my lack of Korean ability, I miss out on a lot of parties, or the party starts after I leave and when I hang out with kyopos, they talk like dumb asses and I just can't relate to them because of what they consider important to them.  I don't care about bragging about being able to speak English, a billion people on this planet can speak the language therefore I'm one in a billion that can do something, not that special or unique, we were just fortunate enough to be in a position where we're able to learn the language based on access to education or goegraphical location.  The fact I'm semi-billingual, doesn't mean squat either because I know Europeans that can speak 7 languages, so all these things people are so arrogant about, I'm not about it cuz  I always look up for my standard of what is the best instead of looking down and THINKING AND BELIEVING I'm the best.  Plus they're into all their brand name items, I don't care how famous a brand is, I care about whether it looks good and feels good and serves the function I want it to serve.  If you're so into brand names and being cool, buy a Damn Mac!  I even had an argument from my kyopo friend from the suburbs of LA, he said the Mac is a superior computer on every level, but e won't get one.  You see the logic here?  

This point brings me to my next point.  I love tech, I'm a wannabe tech geek, tech otaku, tech maniac, whatever label you want to put on it.  Yet tech geeks are anti-weightlifting, anti-SiriusXM, anti-Howard Stern, anti-sports, all the things I also love.  I don't fit in their world because I don't love tech gear just because it's tech gear.  I love tech gear for its functionality for the average person, iPhone vs. Android.  I tried to give my friends technical support on their damn Android phones, whoever said that the Android platform is SO OPEN, is a liar.  First of all every carrier puts all sorts of crapware on the phones, so that if you want to buy music, apps or ringtones, you can only get it from their universe.  I tried to hook up one of the kids that works with me's phone (Samsung Galaxy S) to the Google Android App Marketplace.  No dice because the carrier has to allow the device to be attached to the gmail account.  I meet techies, because I'm buff and am not a vegetarian, I prefer shots of Jack Daniels to sips of beer, I'm even an outcast amongst them!

The hardest thing for me to do is meet people I would like to have a long term relationship with, male or female, but you guys know how I feel about male/female relationships, just list to Episode 7 of my podcast, but I digress, I say I love going out and meeting new people, actually it's a very anxiety ridden experience for me.  First thought in my mind, will people like me?  How much charm do I have to turn on?  Will I say something stupid or do something stupid?  So, for me, going out is a really painfully agonizing process for me.  When I meet peeps who I think are cool, turn out to be rather lame or too shallow or mornonic or fill in the blank.  I might meet someone that's way too far to the right or left politically, or I might meet super pretentious people, who think they're greater than they think they are.  I remember meeting suburb jerkoffs claiming they're from the nearest city.  If you can't be honest about where you're from (or ashamed or lack pride) then what else are you not telling me?  The biggest hurdle I run into is meeting hypocrites.  I understand in the Christian context we all sin and fall short of the glory of God.  Please don't be preaching to everybody saying this is the way to salvation while you're paying for call girls, hookers, or having homosexual relations or whatever and presenting this family man image.  I'd rather hang out with an honest thief or racist than a holier than thou religious person any day of the week!  Despite the fact I hate meeting people I do it because it's all a numbers game, the more people you meet the higher liklihood you will meet someone you can have a long term relationship with, whether it's offline, Twitter, Facebook, etc. or as one dude once told me get in where you fit in.

I grew up in 3 worlds, yet I'm part of none of them.  

I'm really upset about this because there are male rituals, aka rites of passage that we as men have to go through.  Hazing is one of them.  If you play football, the new players (rookies or freshmen) have to carry the veteran's bags, in baseball rookies have to dress up in drag, in military basic training, there are many hazing rituals.  There is a difference between bullying and hazing.  Bullying is a douchebag move by a bigger guy or an insecure guy with a small ding dong that picks on a weak person just because they're weak.  Hazing is a commonly shared bonding experience that has been passed down from generations amongst males.  This way we can meet former baseball players or football players or army guys and we have a common shared experience that we can share and discuss even though we weren't there together.  It's the hazing, the common shared experience that builds camaraderie amongst men.  As we get older, it's not the hazing that we miss, it was the camaraderie that was shared we miss.  It wasn't the grueling practices, where it was so grueling sometimes, we would puke our lunch in the trash can after practice.  It's the common shared experience that we can share with the fellas that came before us or after us.  

With the explosioin of single child homes, especially in Seoul in the late 70s to the mid 80's, you mothers were doting on your sons and gave them too much attention instead of letting them be.  Now I see all these 20 years old who want to be skinnier than chicks and wear more makeups than chicks.  Men are supposed to hate dramas, musicals and shopping.  BUT NOOOOOOOO, you endoctrinated your boy into liking what you like because you had to have a play friend instead of allowing him to go outside hit a baseball, twist an ankle from playing soccer or basketball.  FYI:  Only men can teach a man to be a man just as only a woman can teach a woman how to be a woman.  If I were a single father of a daughter no matter how hard I try, I cannot teach her to be a woman, I can teacher her what kind of woman I would find ideal and she would try to be that woman to please me which is not fair to her, and just as mothers, stop lying to your sons and telling them what women want, most of you are miserable in your marriages and you're trying to make your son into the ideal man that you wish you had.  IT'S NOT FAIR TO HIM, if you really loved your son, you would allow him the space to grow and do the things that most normal boys do, such as playing sports, sneaking a cigarette and coughing like there's no tomorrow, drinking beer with friends at the park and puking their brains out.  Boys are supposed to get dirty on the playground, you're trying to protect your kids from germs and diseases, listen to me, I know it sounds counter intuitive, but getting dirty at the park, catching a cold here and there actually makes their immune system stronger, duhhhhh.  This is why there are so many food allergies, ailments that wasn't so prominent as long as 15 years ago.  What changed?  I was led to believe evolution takes millions of years to occur yet the human beings have evolved in less than half a generation?  Me thinks not, but I digress.

What really upsets me is what happened in the Korean army.  There were some hazing incidents, where the whole platoon would get naked, stand in formation and take a picture (of course, everybody covered their junk), this is one of the common shared experience yet one candy ass kid complained to his momma and couple of obasans/ajumas complained.  There was another instance in the winter, where some kid was missing they found him hiding in one of the bathrooms, curled next to a heater because it was cold.  ONE KID!  He may be special to you, but in the societal big picture, he's just another person.  As a result of this, there was ths blue ribbon panel and focus group on how the army should train their soldiers.  Give me a break, just as politicians shouldn't dictate how to fight a war, mothers should not dictate how the army is run.  What the hell do you think the army is?  A two year summer camp?  The whole purpose of an Army is to train soldiers, what do soldiers do?  They kill people.  That's the cold, hard reality. As a result of this, they cannot order soldiers to do more than 10 pushups in a day, they can't run more than 3 or 5 kms.  Who the hell are we kidding.  As a Korean man, I love my Korean people, I pray for reunification, but the undeniable truth of the matter is that we only have an armistice treaty with North Korea.  Do you think they're only doing 10 pushups a day?  Do you think they're only running 3 to 5 kms a day.  They're ready to kills us despite the fact they're our brothers. What is it?  Somebody else's sons should fight for the country instead of your son?  Your narcissism and selfishness is creating a bunch of selfish and narcissistic kids.  Remember parents are a reflection of their parents, they are a mirror of who you are.  I know by the way people act what kind of parents they had.  I know right away what their parents taught them or didn't teach them and you wonder why your son is not successful in life?  Why he jumps from part time job to part time job.  Stop taking your husband for granted and viewing him as the ATM.  Only men can teach men how to be a man.  By monopolizing your sons' time you have effeminized him.  To all of you who call me a sexist, why is it nowadays that many fertility clinics in Korea are sprouting up? I'll tell you why, it all goes back to you, the mothers, the last time I checked, mothers are females.  You tell your kids to study, study, study, these boys sit on their asses all day and night studying to please you, never getting sunshine, which by the way is also leading to vitamin D deficiencies but don't get me started on that, having never done any physical activities, guess what they never had the opportunity to develop testosterone, yes, it's very important for me nto have it despite your hatred for it.  Low testosterone level = low sperm count, go figure, thus the fertility clinics sprouting up.  Blame yourselves.  Stop blaming everybody else, the smog in the air, bad ventilation system in the schools and buildings, stress from the army, stress from socieety, stress from academic competition.  None of these things contributed to his low testosterone level and low sperm count, you not allowing him to go outside to participate in physical activity is the only reason this happened.  And for you momma's boys, you're to blame also because you should have fought with your mothers to play outside, follow nature's calling, boys want to play sports.  Now I think about it, perhaps they have low testosterone from the beginning so they never heeded the call of the wild?  

So, what is my point in all this ranting?  For mothers, let boys be boys, let them have the same common shared experiences with other boys.  I don't hate mothers, or women.  When most people rant, 99% of the times they complain about the 10% that are the jerkoffs, if you're not the 10% you would agree with me.  It's always the 10% I talk about that hate what I say, if you're hating what I'm saying, that mean you're the 10% and stop emasculating your son.